this is a hard one because as soon as you take it too the end of the bench top - it will look just as out of place with the upper cabinetry.
I think you'll need to decide which you can live with better. Maybe blu-tack some faux tiles up in line with the bench top and see if you like that any better than the way it currently is.
I'm with your tile guy. I think it looks odd to go out beyond the upper cabinet and then have some weird cuts or bullnose attempt at the top.
I would keep it lined up with the upper cabinets...no problem.
There was an article and debate about this a few weeks ago and you always stop your backsplash with the end of the top cabinet! It just looks a little different because of how close the door frame is to the end of the cabinets.
pick your poison.... or else design so the uppers and lowers end at the same place.
Also, you can set something on the end of the counter there and forget all about it. It's really just fine.
As Bev said, there was similar dilemma a few weeks ago. End-of-cabinet carried the day, pros & homeowners alike.
it might help if you made the wall the same color as the tile, or less contrasting with it. the other possib. is to cut the countertop! :)
I think issue is minimized by fact coutertop ends at door casing. To me, it's like the countertop is supposed to end where it can go no farther & backsplash ends at cabs, both natural termination points. If countertop ended on open wall so it was sort of dangling in space w/ backsplash left behind at cabs it would be more of an eye-catcher.
My 2cents worth is that this is the result of really bad (or no) planning...
I think yours is in the right space now. It would look really awkward if it went with the counter. It would also leave the little sliver of wall paint between the door and the backsplash.
Professional tile setters say the way to do it is exactly as you have it--in line with the upper cabinets. Even if the upper and lower cabinets align, the countertop will always extend about 1-2" beyond.
I think it's personal preference - if you went to end of counter-top, you would have a little floating corner. I have seen it end under the wall cabinet more often than not, in a situation like this.
Original post was from 2016.
Courtney, your kitchen is stunning! You made the right choice with the backsplash.