You can get honed granite, which isn't shiny. There are a few that are dense enough, even when honed, that they don't need to be sealed, if you're not picky about color. Any decent sealer should work fine, in general, especially with one of the less porous stones.
Hard glazed bisque tiles are amazingly durable. Yes, you can etch the grout with acid, but it's hard to notice. It does need to be sealed, but shouldn't need to be sealed over and over.
Any kind of metal is also wonderfully durable, though if it's thin, it can dent. Most counter grade metals, stainless steel, pewter, zinc or copper, don't dent, at least not easily. They do get a patina, however, though, with the stainless it's just small scratches, as Fori mentioned. If you have it brushed, or just go over it lightly with steel wool, the scratches just blend in.
Quartz is made out of stone dust in resin. The resin yellows over time and can stain, but if you choose your color wisely, you won't really see it. I think it can also be honed.
Soapstone comes everywhere from fingernail carved soft to tenpenny nail tough. It's impervious to water, and oil will kind of stick to the surface, so you can make an oil seal kind of like seasoning a pan--for looks. It needs no sealing for use. The hardness determines the likelihood to scratch or chip. Some don't. Many do.
Pyrolave and other enamelled lava stones have all the advantages of stone combined with those of tile. The seams may be more noticeable than with granite, but it wears like iron. It's also hideously expensive.
Concrete and concrete terrazzos are popular choices. Some etch like the dickens. There are ones that have polymers in them to make them more like quartz. Colorants can be added, and when it's all sanded very smooth it's nothing like a parking structure floor, or a Brutalist anything. :) It shouldn't scratch or chip without a great deal of provocation.
Wood also develops patina, but is surprisingly durable, though not heat resistant like the others.
There are really lots and lots of good, durable choices. There's no single magic bullet. Your best bet is to go on a shopping trip, even if you have to travel to somewhere with good showrooms, and put your hands on the alternatives, see them under the lights, and torture samples with vinegar and knives.
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