There was a similar discussion last week, maybe you can get some ideas from it: https://www.houzz.com/discussions/help-for-exterior-cedar-siding-trim-color-dsvw-vd~661559

Matte finishes have more texture that traps dirt and oils. If people entering the room cannot see well enough to be able to find the light switch, you might consider switching the switch to a dimmer that you can leave the light on very low all the time. Or a night light light switch which has a small LED built into it. People should not be dragging their dirty hands across the wall.

If it is happening on two different surfaces, in two different rooms, with two different paint choices and two different sheen levels...I would say it isn't the paint. There is nothing in common to point to "paint problem". A wall paint is a different formula than a cupboard paint. If it all came from the same can...we might be able to point dirty fingers at the paint...but that isn't the case. You mentioned your husband has a tendency to drag his dirty fingers all over the place...I would start there. These two colours you have chosen may also have a tendency to show oil (body oil, cooking oil, etc...they are all oil) a bit more...simply because of their colour and depth of colour. If different colours had been chosen in the same paint...and no finger marks were appearing then we would know FOR SURE it isn't the paint. It may come down to two things...colour and dirty fingers.

Hi V Lyon. I'm a novice at this myself so I don't have any real comments except that what you're looking at doing seems nice. But I did want to ask is what program you used to do your proposed makeover? Was it just Photoshop? Or something else? I'm keen to try this on our 1970s house to get a feel for how it might look...