Hi definitely remove the x bars on the deck balustrade. Landscape close to the house so it grounds the house. Trees will make it look less bare. Chose some that work for your area, that are evergreen, and are not going to grow really big. With a really plain house - dark colors will make it look better. Dark Grey, or black with a warm tone so it doesn't have a blue undertone in it. Make sure it is a warm grey or black. Use green foliage around it. Paint out the pergola in the dark grey too or white if you want a different look. Fill in the balustrade where the x is removed with plants in front of those areas. Grow a vine up the pergola that is nice.

There was a similar discussion last week, maybe you can get some ideas from it: https://www.houzz.com/discussions/help-for-exterior-cedar-siding-trim-color-dsvw-vd~661559

I'd match the white of the door trim and baseboards.

wow, what a transformation